if one has to think about it over, think it over at your bachelorette’s night.

i asked david if his two friends charlotte and andy are all warmed up and excited about their upcoming wedding day in august.

“very.” he answered. “she just had a hen’s night.”

that’s british way of saying she just had one of those crazy bachelorette parties. “a bridal shower?” i clarified.

“yes. something like that and more. booze, fun, and strippers.” he said and chuckled.

the english are clueless sometimes. bachelorette parties is something like that, too. and more. in fact, bachelorette parties sound cooler than hen’s night (a chick’s night would have been more apt). but i leave it to the brits to name their parties like its has something to do with warming the eggs. “but she’s really not into the stripper thing. shes just all booze and fun. they took pictures, she looked so smashed.” he paused. “hiring strippers’ such a cheap move.”

i agree with him on that, strippers are unnecessary. i say, a bachelorette’s night (or a hen’s night for the brits) should be what it is meant to be: a recognition of the bride-to-be’s conscious surrender of the single life. who should be in the bride-to-be’s bachelorette party should be the men in her life, the men she fantasized at some point, the men who weren’t lucky to have her, and the men she’s turning her back from to marry the guy she chose.

there was a long silence from david’s side when i said this.

and then he broke out laughing.

“same case with the bachelor’s night.” i told him.

“you’re crazy.”

maybe i am. but deciding who you want to spend the rest of your life with (or at least at that particular point in your life) is an act of free will more than anything else. and that is not supposed to change just because for that one last night you’ve watched the men you are about to do away with. cause seriously, if that makes you think twice of getting hitched, then you ain’t ready to get hitched.

i remember a quote from nick mercer in the wedding date: “here’s to the husbands who’ve won you, the losers who’ve lost you, and the lucky bastards who’ve yet to meet you…”

marriage is always a work in progress. the wedding’s the contract offer.


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